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Five Steps to Turbo Charge Your Dreams by Stuart
Goldsmith
1. Dream of a brighter tomorrow. Your yearning power
is more important than your earning power.
2. Be rational. Mysticism is your mortal enemy. There
are obvious, logical steps between here and your dreams. Write them
down in bite-sized chunks and follow them like a route map.
3. Act. All is dust without action. Action is the
key.
4. Be disciplined. Life is tough. Fight. Others want
you to fail. Ignore them. The world is against you - go your own
way. People will spout rubbish - ignore it.
5. Start today. Procrastination is the thief of time.
Winners start right now. Losers chatter to themselves that they
will start 'one day real soon.' It never happens.
Hierarchy of Needs
All dreams are driven by your needs. This might be
your need for approval, recognition, status, safety, love, food,
shelter - or any one of a hundred different needs.
So when thinking about your dreams, I want you to
remember this concept called the hierarchy of needs - you might
have come across this before. It goes like this.
When life is a desperate struggle, we are overwhelmingly
consumed with the desire for food. Every waking moment is spent
in pursuit of nourishment. Nothing else matters. We scrabble the
earth from dawn until dusk with little on our mind apart from the
thrill of discovering another root or berry. There is little time
for philosophy or self fulfillment. We work, we sleep, we eat -
if we're lucky.
Food is the first need, assuming we have basics such
as air and water. If, due to man's ingenuity, we manage to crack
the food supply problem, our next need becomes shelter and warmth
- somewhere cozy to lay our heads at night. If we achieve all of
these things, the next thing we seek is love and belongingness.
And after that? Recognition, self-esteem and the esteem
of our peers.
This is a very important realization for you. It is
very likely that you already have air, water, sufficient food, a
roof over your head, a modest amount of money, and a certain amount
of love and friendship. Therefore your dreams will almost certainly
reflect your next need on the list which is your desire for recognition,
self-esteem, admiration, respect, fame, achievement, etc.
If you want ten million dollars, then this is almost
certainly because you want to be somebody and have the respect and
admiration of society, not because you need a larger roof over your
head or extra food.
As an interesting aside, the modern phenomenon of
the serial killer coincides exactly with a period when, for the
first time in history, most people have adequate food, shelter and
warmth.
Next in the hierarchy of needs comes love, which we
will assume is thwarted for some reason.
So the next higher need is recognition. Or, in the
case of the criminal, notoriety. Most serial killers when caught
and questioned, mentioned that one motivating factor was the desire
to be somebody - a rare motive in crimes from previous centuries.
Paul John Knowles who embarked upon a random killing
spree in 1972, claiming the lives of at least 24 victims, declared
himself to be “the only successful member of my family” and positively
basked in the media attention after his arrest. He was subsequently
shot dead by an FBI agent whilst trying to grab a gun after a court
appearance.
Recognizing your desire for adulation, fame, infamy
- call it what you will - helps to clear your head and focus your
mind more firmly on your goals. It can also help you to detect erroneous
or incorrect dreams. Yes, there are such things as incorrect dreams.
I would define this as a dream which is an overly complex or grandiose
strategy for filling a simple need, when a far simpler (and more
achievable) strategy might suffice.
Achieving a net worth of ten million dollars is actually
a difficult task and one which will exercise you for the next ten
or twenty years. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this, if
it is what you really desire. But if this dream is being driven
by a craving for recognition, admiration or respect then there may
be an easier way of satisfying your desires without going through
the twenty years of grief required to amass ten million.
Perhaps you can get the recognition you crave in some
other simpler way by writing a book, appearing on television, being
a star in your local community or any one of a hundred easier ways.
It's just something for you to think about.
Once you understand that it is our need for recognition,
not money, which drives most people in an affluent Western society,
you will be less puzzled by the things that are going on around
you.
The rise in crime and delinquency is not caused by
poverty, it is caused by tens of thousands of petty crooks wanting
to ‘be somebody,’ or ‘teach society a lesson’ or to 'get respect'
- they are, if you like, ego crimes not fiscal crimes.
A century ago most crime was survival crime. People
stole to eat. Vandalism was almost unknown. A vandal leaves his
or her mark on the furniture of society - it is a statement of ego.
The dramatic rise in divorce rate has little to do
with people being worse husbands or wives these days, compared with
the past. If anything, they are a lot better. It is driven by people's
desire for recognition. They want to be appreciated. They are not
prepared to suffer the drudgery of marriage without reward.
A century ago this would have been unthinkable. You
got on with it because the survival of your family was at stake.
Your precious thoughts of wanting appreciation were inconsequential
in the scrabble for plain survival.
Look at advertising on television. Most products are
sold on the basis of raising your self-esteem, not on the benefits
of the product. Most adverts these days have the hidden message
'be somebody.'
So learn to look at your dreams with a critical eye.
Ask yourself what the underlying need is behind the dream and then
ask yourself if this is the only way you can achieve it.
Don't get fixated on the actual method or strategy
of getting the need met; often there are many different ways of
achieving satisfaction. First work out what the actual need is,
and then plan the simplest, most realistic strategy for meeting
it.
Many people struggle throughout their lives to make
big money only to find that when they have got it, they still feel
hollow and empty. This is because the money was just a symbol for
the underlying need - which still hasn't been met.
A classic case would be a woman who sacrifices everything
to reach the top of her profession and make a lot of money, only
to realize that she has spent twenty years trying to gain her father's
approval and love and this was the way she thought she could get
it! What a hard route - and it didn't work! If only she had recognized
the underlying need (for approval and love) and considered some
alternative strategies, any one of which could have been far easier
than the struggle she put herself through.
Stuart Goldsmith
© Stuart Goldsmith 2003
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