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Six Power Steps © 2003 Stuart
The following power steps structure your thinking
to make sure the actions you take will drive you towards success.
Power Step 1 - Be in Charge of Your Life
Caring what other people think of you puts them in
charge of your life, instead of you.
'What will other people think of me?' slavery is
extremely common. Most of us are brought up (rightfully so) to consider
others. But, unless we are discerning, we soon find ourselves caught
up in a job we can't stand, or living in a relationship which makes
us unhappy, or getting caught up in the spiral of poverty.
'Trying to please other people all the time' syndrome
begins in childhood. It stems from a desire to be liked and admired.
Let's look at a fairly typical scenario: three boys, Fred, Joe,
and Matthew, all five years old, are best pals. They fight to sit
together at school and spend their breaks in a group. Fred comes
to school one day with a stack of pokemon cards to show his friends.
Joe is envious of Fred's collection and a fight breaks out when
Fred refuses to give a prized card to Joe.
There are several resulting scenarios, all with serious
implications for Fred's future. A teacher could break up the fight
and make Fred feel guilty for not parting with the prized card.
Joe could refuse to talk to Fred even ending the friendship, unless
Fred relented. Matthew would side with either Joe or Fred, or be
a peacemaker and force the other two to discuss the problem and
sort it out amicably.
The biggest danger to Fred, is if the solution entails
his giving the card away, when he really doesn't want to. In other
words, if the only reason he gives in, is because he desperately
wants to be liked and it really matters what his friends think of
him. If they were real friends, of course, Joe would understand
Fred's view and Matthew would not criticise. Fred might even willingly
offer Joe another not so valuable card out of his collection.
Over the years thousands of small incidents build
up, until by the time we are adults, most of us make a habit of
putting what other people think of us before our own personal needs
The Right Reasons
Before you cut the grass, decorate the house, start
a business, go on holiday, always ask yourself, 'am I doing this
for the right reasons?' Yes, the gardening has to be done, but not
if you're in the middle of crucial market research and if you don't
cut the grass today you're worried that the neighbour's will think
you're lazy. Yes, a house has to be decorated, but not if it's at
the expense of your health through shooting your stress level through
the roof trying to fit it in between a busy advertising campaign,
and it's only because your partner insists you do it now.
'Other people' slavery kills your creativity, your
energy and drive towards your own goals and fulfilling your dreams.
It stops you from going to places you want to visit and enjoying
the kind of entertainment that you enjoy. So, make certain you're
not always driven to do things, merely because you're worried about
what other people think of you. Be confident in who you are!
Power Step 2 - Strive to Be Different
Nearly everyone you know will strive to be normal
- because it's socially acceptable. But the normal person goes nowhere
special and achieves the mundane.
Using a fictitious character called Norman, here's
an example of his normal expectations of life and mediocre results:
'I live in a pleasant neighbourhood in an average
house (translated as meaning: all the houses and gardens along the
street look exactly alike, apart from the odd differences in plants).
I own an average car (just another standard box on wheels, which
apart from minor differences looks like nearly every other car on
Norman's other goals and ambitions: 'I save up all
year round to take my wife and children on holiday, somewhere nice
where it's safe. We usually book a package holiday, so everything
is taken care of and we know exactly what to expect. Even the entertainment
is all planned for us.
My job is boring, but it pays the bills and the pension
is good. It'll never make me rich, but then I don't want to be rich
(but he wouldn't give away a lottery win!). Anyone who's rich has
had to lie and cheat their way to the top. I like to sleep at night
with a clear conscience. I may not have much but at least it's honest
I don't have much to do with the neighbours; I don't
really like them. But, to keep the peace I mow my lawn once a week
and keep the garden weeded and tidy, and do the odd job for them.
I like to think they view me as a nice guy.
Every other weekend we visit our best friends, Alice
and Paul, and they visit us alternate weekends. Like us, they're
your average typical family. Most nights after work I shower, change
and after dinner, put my feet up and watch television until bedtime.
Every Sunday, we have a roast dinner and every Friday we treat ourselves
to a fry up. Am I happy, well, it's life isn't it?'
That's how Norman thinks and lives his life and that's
how many people live their life. The Normans spend their days, grumbling
about how they hate their job, get fed up with their bosses and
partners, but that's all they do. The same gripes day in and day
out - but taking no action to change their situation, simply because
they are slaves to being normal (and 'what will other people think
of me, if I do something unusual?').
Living in the Fast Lane of the Elite
Let's compare Norman's goals and ambitions with another
invented character, David. He's one of the smaller group of people
who move forward and live the life of the elite and privileged.
'My philosophy on life is simple. Life is too short
to be little. I'm not concerned with what other people think of
me. If all my neighbours want to cut down their hedges and build
short brick walls and block pave their drives, that's their choice,
but I'm not going to have it done just to please them. I like the
trees so they're staying and I prefer to have a shingle drive. I've
done everything possible to make our house individual.
Often, I ring Sarah from the office and ask her to
forget about cooking dinner for that night and how about going out
for a meal? We've tried all the restaurants within a twenty km radius.
We both love holidays, and I take the family as often
as possible. We spend most weekends, exploring new places and trying
out different activities.
I love my job, it's very challenging being a manager.
I get to meet and work with people of many different personality
traits, from varied backgrounds. Every now and then a junior is
obviously aiming to take my job. I don't find it threatening, I
like the challenge. I enjoy working with intelligent people who
stretch my potential.
I work hard and I am paid well. Do I feel guilty?
No, I expect to be paid handsomely for my efforts, I wouldn't have
it any other way. We live in a large house in an exclusive area
and that's my reward for going the extra mile at work. I don't automatically
go home at the end of the working day. And sometimes I arrive at
the office as early as 6am, just to prepare for a meeting with my
I want to be rich and I am prepared to plan and work
towards my goals. I look forward to the future. I don't know what's
around the corner and I don't care, because whatever happens I will
handle the situation. I know I can solve problems - my strength
lies within, it does not come from any outside forces. I couldn't
care less whether other people approve of me or not, I know I'm
okay and that's all that matters.'
Two Opposing Philosophies
Norman's slavery to acting normal (and slavery to
what other people think), creates poverty and unhappiness. While
David's striving to be different (and refusal to be a slave to other
people's expectations of him) creates wealth and happiness.
If you are ever tempted to query if David's attitude
is not a tad selfish, then just ask yourself this question, 'who
would you prefer to have as a friend? Norman, who's bored and unhappy
or David who's exciting and happy?' Easy isn't it.
Power Step 3 - Look to the Future
If you dwell on your past mistakes your creativity
can crash to a grinding halt and you will be unable to move forward.
Losing is good if you interpret it correctly.
Demonstration Example: A friend of mine told me how
a number of years ago, an acquaintance of his, approached him with
a spectacular lead about a stock that was certain to triple in price
in the next few weeks. The price was $7.45 a share. So, despite
his misgivings he bought 200 shares. From that day the stock dropped.
Finally eighteen months later he decided to cut his losses and sell.
He sold the stock for a huge loss at a grand total
of $413. He could have let this one bad experience drive him from
ever investing in the stock market again. However, this wise man
explained, he was glad to have learned such valuable lessons.
It taught him:
1. Ignore the guy who wants to give a hot tip.
2. Check into a company carefully before buying.
3. Sell if it starts dropping too much.
Education of the Highest Merit
Don't regard mistakes as mistakes. It ceases to be
a mistake and loses its power to hold you back if you can learn
to be glad that you've not failed but learned valuable lessons in
life. That attitude will help you to build future successes.
Lost a job? You probably weren't suited, so take
the time out to decide what you really want to do. Built a business
and then it crashed? Perhaps you don't like running your own business.
Can't sell a product? Look for the reason and then act. Either try
out other ways to sell it or scrap the product and sell a different
Blessed is he who is not discouraged by mistakes.
Blessed is he who is glad he makes mistakes. Winning - or losing
- is a state of mind.
Power Step 4 - It's Never Too Late
Sadly, the following story is all too common: Bill
spent years training to be an engineer, although he never really
liked engineering. But he thought it was worth the sacrifice because
it was a highly paid skill.
After college, he started a job with an engineering
company. Years later he was still working at the same company and
still hating it. His excuse was with a mortgage and family ties
he was scared to leave the engineering firm and go into a job with
After twenty years he was still afraid to correct
a mistake made all those years ago. He was now too scared to change
jobs, simply because he'd left it too late. He didn't want to compete
with younger men experienced at their job.
If you have a goal and you find yourself saying 'it's
too late', the only way to conquer that fear is to ignore it and
go ahead and do the thing you fear. It's NEVER too late if you have
the courage and the passion to follow your dream.
Power Step 5 - Don't Crave Security
In ages past we accepted that life was full of hardships.
They grappled with huge animals in a desperate bid to kill them
for food. The odds were simple; either succeed or starve, kill or
As civilisations discovered fire and then electricity
and gas to keep warm, bought food from markets and built houses
of stone, people became less willing to deal with any unexpected
events that threatened to turn their cosy life upside down. So,
insurance was invented.
The idea of insurance is to cushion the impact of
the unexpected. In theory it's a good idea, but it has turned our
society into a population of security seekers. It has weakened our
strength as individuals who know we can surmount any problem or
situation that life throws our way.
The stifling extent of this slavery is enormous.
The more security we have the less psychological freedom we can
enjoy and the less our chances are of success and abundance.
Dare to Take a Chance
The only places to find security are a prison or
mental hospital. Inmates are assured a roof over their heads, food
and warmth and no responsibilities. The price tag for this security?
Unfortunately, it's all too easy to reel off a list
of bad things that could happen to us. For most people it's easier
than thinking of the good things that could happen. People who crave
security are slaves to a vivid imagination that conjures up bad
news items that could happen to them, and they allow these images
to cripple their actions. Too afraid to start that great business
idea because of all the things they imagine that could go wrong.
Too frightened to sell up and buy a larger house in another area
because the house prices could drop or the children won't like the
new schools, or... and so it goes on for an endless list.
Every child loves surprises and life is fun and exciting
because of this. As we grow up and we fight for security, we eliminate
the risks but in doing so we eliminate the surprises and limit our
chances to achieve more than a humdrum life.
If you want to make sure you don't stifle your need
1. Dare to be individual.
2. Dare to develop your own style - instead of following
3. Dare to study and work to improve yourself in
4. Dare to have a positive mental attitude and the
courage to try.
In other words: Dare to take a chance.
Power Step 6 - I'm Certain to Win
Our minds drive us to achieve exactly what we believe
we're capable of achieving. This is good news because once we understand
this and master the art of controlled thinking, then we can guide
our destinies towards success.
Controlled experiments over many years have proved
that children who are considered by their teachers, friends and
families to be 'troublesome or terrors' actually end up getting
into trouble with a high percentage becoming juvenile delinquents.
However, the 'good' group of boys (in the same age group at the
beginning of a study) believed by teachers, friends and families
to stay out of trouble and succeed in school, go on to do so. Each
group of children achieve in accordance with what people around
them believe them capable of doing.
The conclusion of many similar studies is this: thinking
does make it so. Only a miracle can make the football team win who
starts a game with the 'we know they'll beat us,' attitude.
If you need to break the bonds of 'I'm certain to
1. Hold positive chats with yourself.
2. Surround yourself with positive people.
3. Think, 'I'm going to succeed'.
4. Think, 'I'm a winner'.
The only person you will have to convince is yourself.
Other people are automatically convinced you're great and a success,
after you have convinced yourself.
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